Finally, a list that 5% of Tumblr are satisfied with.
You know what, I seriously considered ignoring this, because it is so obviously posted with malicious intent, and any reaction explaining just how ignorant and offensive this post is will just be used as further evidence of how “sensitive” “sjws” are on Tumblr are. But hell, I have a free half hour, so let’s go on a little adventure into “stop deliberately conflating sexual identity, gender expression, gender identity, and assigned sex in order to mock and dehumanize trans people” land. It’ll be fun!
So first, if you’re trying to genuinely and respectfully give people options for declaring their gender identity, putting sexual orientations, modes of gender expression, genital configuration, etc on the list is completely pointless, and shows a blatant lack of understanding for what gender is. If you are actually asking for someone’s gender identity, you probably don’t need to know whether they are cis or trans, but if those categories are relevant, putting “transexual male” as a counterpoint to “male” is saying that “male” is only a label that can be applied to cis men, and that transness must be qualified and divided from the “norm.” By not adding the prefix of “cis,” you are saying that trans men and women are not really men and women, and that is hugely transphobic.
"Metrosexual" is a label based on gender presentation, and has nothing to do with either sexual or gender identity. Enough said.
"Curious" is not a gender identity: notice something about this list? No mention of any nonbinary identities. It is literally a reiteration of "male" and "female" with different physical characteristics listed.
"Overweight, so have moobs" is a just a cute way to say "I’m a fatphobic fuck who believes that someone’s gender identity as male can be revoked or compromised on the basis of having tissue on their chest." You are not clever or funny for saying this: you are degrading and mocking fat men, and also implying that breasts are a characteristic that would deny someone masculinity.
"Female, but has an adam’s apple": great transmisogyny and body-shaming there A+ you should definitely do that again. Everyone has an Adam’s apple: some are more pronounced than others.
H*rm*phr*dite is a slur against intersex people. Intersex is not a gender identity. Our society is highly dyadist, and so those intersex people who are born with primary sex characteristics not fitting neatly into the prescribed binary of “penis” or “vagina” are often forced to undergo a surgery to forcibly assign them genitalia considered acceptable by the medical community. These surgeries are often performed when they are infants, shortly after birth, and are defined solely on the basis of whether it is easier to construct a phallus or a vaginal cavity. Obviously, this can lead to trauma and/or confusion, and many intersex people are not even informed of the procedure that was performed upon them. Intersex people are also frequently subjected to mockery and harassment and medical abuses later in life—and this post is just another example of how people consider intersex people to be a joke. There are as many intersex people (keeping in mind that not all intersex people are “visibly” intersex, and that some will only find out later in life, or not at all), as there are red heads, so treating intersex people like some “bizarre” aberration that can be mocked, or treated as fictitious is not okay. You are only contributing to misconceptions about intersex people.
Aaah, the conjoined twin bit. Just a little ableism to top off all the other ignorant crap you’re spewing. I’ll need a two page, double-spaced paper in size 12 times new roman font with mla citations explaining exactly why you thought this was an “amusing” thing to add to your cute little image.
Oh, and while you’re at it, I’d love another paper with the same specifications on what “born without genitals” is supposed to mean here.
"Born a male, bad circumcision, raised female": Something like this has actually happened. To a real human being. Who lived his entire life experiencing intense dysphoria and never being aware of what had been done to him, and who ended up committing suicide. That is just one case: there have been others. This is not a gender identity. Google David Reimer and stop treating this as something humorous.
"Womyn" is literally just an alternative spelling of "women" used by some feminists who don’t want to have "man" in the word. This is used often by TERFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists/trans exterminatory radical feminists), and so can be indicative of very transmisogynistic people, although this is not always the case. At any rate, the inclusion of it is obviously meant to mock anyone who has issues with the dominance and privilege of men in our society, and that is tired and unoriginal of you.
Awwwww, and here we get into all those cute ways in which you compare the gender identities of anyone who isn’t cisgender (and especially nonbinary people) to being a household pet, a fictional character, or artificial intelligence. You picked the identities you considered to be the most laughable and absurd as stand-ins for nonbinary people, and used that to delegitimize those people—who you didn’t even bother to include in any capacity. You are lazy, self-centered, and incapable of incorporating the realities of other people, and the language they use to describe those realities into your vocabulary. You think that the desire of trans people to be recognized as human beings is hilarious and inconvenient and absurd. You do not even have enough understanding of gender identity to know that it is not sexual orientation, gender expression, or sex characteristics. You have a scarcely concealed hatred of trans people, and see them as abnormal and subhuman. You see yourself, a cis person, as the normative, and you actively despise those who do not fit neatly into your limited understanding of gender.
Those last three categories? Those are the only valid ones you have included. An “Other” option should always be available for those whose gender identity is not featured on a form: “None” is useful to someone who does not subscribe to any gender or gender label: “Prefer not to say” is good for anyone of any gender who does not feel safe or comfortable in divulging their gender identity.
Here is what a good set of options might look like:
Prefer not to say
And then, if it were relevant, you could also provide a section for assigned sex that could look something like:
You could also have a section for pronouns.
Arranged alphabetically, your chart would not prioritize certain genders or assigned sexes over others, and would not conflate sex and gender. The “Other” option allows people to fill in any gender identity that was overlooked (as many will inevitably be, because gender and the terms we use to define it is constantly evolving and growing as we understand more).
Anyone with the slightest regard for trans people would not be “satisfied with” this drop down menu. No one with even the slightest understanding of gender would think this was remotely inclusive or acceptable. Stop trying to depict nonbinary genders as confusing and annoying and inconvenient and “impossible to satisfy.” Stop trying to portray nonbinary and/or trans people as humorous, petty, selfish, demanding, or entitled. You are the one who embodies those characteristics: you who go out of your way to create such a deliberately offensive list. You who actively seeks to bait and belittle trans people who are just trying to exist and be treated as valid human beings in a world that hates them for existing.
And to the cis people who reblogged this, I sincerely hope that you will reevaluate your decision. You are not funny, and you are not saying something original or relevant. You are just recycling the same tired old narratives that degrade trans people. Please take the time to reblog this with the corrections, and to make amends.
I apologize for reblogging this before for humour, as I did think it was funny. I thought the drop list wasn’t accurate, but I didn’t say anything about it because in my mind it was “just for laughs, accuracy doesn’t matter”. However, as you pointed out, it is a very invalidating and rude post. Thank you for pointing it out, and I’ll hopefully learn from it.
i want to achieve “she’s adorable and i will protect her at all costs but also i am slightly frightened by her power”
For what anon?
tumblr taught me so much about representation tho…. today i literally can’t watch a film without thinking
"why is everyone so white"
"why is everyone straight"
Goddamn. Smart woman for thinking of the “ordering a pizza” thing, and smart dispatcher for picking up on it.
I know this is a reblog and I have a separate blog for reblog nonsense but this isn’t nonsense. THIS IS EXTREMELY USEFUL and I wish so hard that I worlds had this knowledge two years ago.
I know that several of my followers have been and/or currently are in abusive relationships and I need to reblog this for them.
replacing my heart with another liver so i can drink more and care less
is this what having a penis is like
Oh my god